Nothing fills our spirit like gratitude! We are all so good at becoming victims. Victims live in fear and seldom escape. They feel the whole world is against them and that nothing will ever change. They will have to live the rest of their lives in darkness. And they are right… That’s exactly what will happen to them. They have no clue that they have a choice about everything in their lives. That‘s what life is all about, the choices we make. Have you ever heard the phrase “We create our own reality?”. Every choice we’ve made has affected our lives. The problem is that most children aren’t taught how to make decisions or how to look at the pros and cons of a situation. For example, my oldest grandson and his little brother were visiting one day. They were 3 years old and 6 years old. The little one came in the front door and locked it behind himself. When the older one tried to come in, he was locked out. He came in the back door, quite upset. He came to me and said, “I had to walk all the way around to the back door because I was locked out!” I told him that he had really had three choices and he needed to stop and think when things like this occurred. He asked what I meant. I said,” Well, you could have rung the doorbell or since we were sitting in the front of the house, you could have knocked on the window and told us that you were locked out and I would have come and let you in. Would you have chosen to go to the back? He stated, “No, I would have rung the doorbell.” If we teach kids when they are little, they will learn to make good decisions. Of course, if you weren’t taught this as a child, you can learn it from life’s lessons. When I am making a decision, I sit down with a pen and paper and write the positives and negatives to see what the situation looks like. It really helps with important decisions and it usually takes several days to make the list, but is an invaluable tool. If there is one message I would want to give people, it would be to let them know that they don’t have to live in fear, darkness and negativity. They can choose to live in love, light and positivity. I once heard a speaker say, “You can throw the window open and say, good morning God or you can throw the window open and say, good God, it’s morning - it all depends on you.” You are the only one who can make that choice. By the way, making a daily gratitude list helps to create a whole new outlook. My dad used to say, “I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet!”
Toni True-Wills, Ph.D.