How important is it to have laughter in our lives?  I believe that it is extremely important. Many people live their life with such serious intensity, that they miss out on the lighter side of life.


I was married to the funniest man I’ve ever met for 29 years. Even though he was suffering with cancer for the last 3 years of his life, he never lost his sense of humor. I think he was put in my life to teach me about laughter. He used to say, “Lighten up Baby, don’t take things so seriously”.  When he first met my family at a family reunion, he was in awe. He could not believe the love between the generations and especially between my children and their cousins. He said he had only met his cousins a few times. We generally have around fifty people meet for three days during Thanksgiving vacation. We will rent cabins and all have dinner together in one of the larger cabins each night. One night we were all sitting around eating and he looked around the room at everyone laughing and talking and he told me that he couldn’t believe how much love was in the room. Then he said out loud, “The only family reunion my family ever had, was in probate court!” Everybody burst into laughter. Through him, I learned that even when serious things are going on in our life, we can always find a humorous side to the situation.


Humor is a gift that we all should appreciate and cultivate. It can bring joy to people who don’t have a lot of joy in their lives. So, we should definitely share it with as many people as possible.  I love to watch children because they are so unabashed.  They come out with the funniest things, in all innocence.                   


When we learn to live in the moment, we learn how important humor can be and we no longer want to waste time on dramatizing what is going on in our lives. We begin to understand that “This too shall pass” and we will smile again and laugh again and what a valuable lesson we learned from that experience.


There are high little laughs and deep low laughs, giggly laughs and loud, loud laughs. Some people get upset when people in a public place keep laughing out loud but to me it brings joy just knowing that they are happy and enjoying themselves. I’ve even been known to eves drop for a few minutes to see what was so funny.  So the next time you hear laughter, think of it as a gift…a little present from above, to even out our lives.


Toni True-Wills, Ph.D.




































































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