Each day can be a new beginning if we decide to make it one. All it takes is an adjustment to our attitude and a desire to think positive thoughts. I’ve written before many times about the two primary emotions…love and fear. Every other emotion is secondary. It either falls under fear or love. Negative emotions fall under fear, positive emotions fall under love. Most people don’t realize how many opportunities they have missed out on because of fear. I’ve had some clients tell me that they wake up in fear every morning. Afraid of change, of a job interview, of someone else’s anger, of not getting something they want or losing something they already have. Think about that, how many times have you missed out on something because of fear? I know I have. Maybe you’re afraid of taking risks? Some people stay in the same job for years because they are afraid of change, They feel safe, but how can we grow without change? Growth is all about change and we grow every time we learn something new, which is usually every day. Therefore, we are not the same person today that we were yesterday. But many aren’t even aware of this.
I love to ask clients, “If I had magic dust and could sprinkle it over you to change anything you wanted changed in your life, what would your life be like?” I’ve heard everything from changing their looks, to fixing monetary problems, to making their relationships better. This gives me the ability to know where the focus of the therapy needs to be. The most difficult part is convincing them that things can be different. People who were raised in dysfunction (addiction, physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc.) often as adults choose what feels familiar to them. They are programed to be victims. They have never experienced true love. They don’t know how beautiful life can be. Those of us who have known love since before birth, need to be able to share that love with them. Love has no measure or limitation, the more we give, the more we get back.
So tonight, before going to sleep, take a few minutes to think about your day. Did you experience more negative or positive emotions? Was your day more about love or fear? Did you take more than you gave or give more than you took? What do you want to accomplish tomorrow? How are you going to go about reaching your goal? How can you spread more love than you did today? As Jack Kornfield believes, we have the capacity to be reborn every morning. Do you want to take advantage of a new beginning?
Toni True-Wills, Ph.D.