When my husband and I first married he did not have a clue what being patient meant. He would have told you this himself. We were in line at the grocery store one day and he was switching from one foot to the other and I said, “Why don’t you play like you have some patience.” I had no idea he would respond the way he did, but he looked at me and burst out laughing. Every-time patience was needed after he would look at me and whisper “I’ am playing like I have patience!”
To me, patience is a virtue. But I can’t say that I have completely mastered it. As a matter of fact, just this afternoon, I had been out since early this morning and it was after 3:00 PM and I got caught behind a school bus. In North Carolina, you do not pass a stopped school bus because they will put you under the jail and rightfully so. I had no choice but to stay behind and be patient. When I realized how impatient I was, I burst out laughing at myself, which brought back all the memories of the above paragraph. I have to admit that the aroma of the chicken I had bought on the way home had something to do with the impatience since I had only had a slice of toast for breakfast.
Webster defines impatient as “annoyed because of delay, etc.” Which describes my situation this afternoon. I believe that the key to developing patience is staying in the now. If we are in the now, we are aware of everything that is going on including our emotions and situations. I had taken a friend to have an MRI and had sensed her anxiety. So I was feeling empathy for her, was anxious to get home and was very hungry.
When I became aware of all this, I realized that it had developed into impatience. Getting home 15 minutes later really wasn’t going to matter. But it was so neat that it ended in laughter and brought back some great memories!
Toni True-Wills, Ph.D.